Relationships
People often ask me what my check boxes are in a relationship/marriage.
- Basic Respect:
Someone who values what I value and respects my beliefs, not accepting fake news over my perspective. (Many people in town have failed this one requirement alone. It's not about accepting differences, it's about understanding why I think the way I do and not trying to convince me of bullshit but accepting I will not change my stance on certain subjects.). I'm not looking to convert someone to anything that I believe, a person has to figure that out on their own and Zac Efron has figured it out on his own without needing me to convince him of beliefs. It's annoying how people keep trying to fool me with their propaganda and they can't accept that I chose to be on the side that I'm on. It's so annoying. - Loyalty: A partner who stands by me and is committed to the relationship.
Even when I'm in a long distance, I do expect loyalty and no side pieces. . .and Zac Efron has shown he can be trusted in a long distance. I was in a long distance with other people before who failed the long distance relationship test and they had side pieces behind my back so I wasn't going to make time to hang out with them in person if I did find that out. Zac doesn't have side pieces and he knows no matter what happens I'll always find out about it even if there's no public info about it, LOL, so he knows better than to try to do something behind my back. Another celebrity I was with years ago thought he could hide his not famous side piece from me and I still found out through his fans even if he never posted her and pretended he was single to the public, lmao. Zac knows better than to trick me like that.
I don't give second chances after a person cheats the way some people don't care about getting cheated on and they'll still keep taking a person back just for the PR or benefits. - Defending Me When I'm Wronged:
Someone who is willing to protect and defend me when I'm treated unfairly. Zac finally said something to the people forcing him to do fake scenes that I'm not okay with and he will no longer allow people to pressure him into something that doesn't grow anyone. He just needed my help with that because people try to take advantage of his kindness to get him to do something he shouldn't do. - Accountability:
A partner who can apologize when wrong and shows changed behavior, demonstrating true remorse. Zac has shown he is very remorseful he let people bully him into doing inappropriate fake scenes and he will not put himself in that position ever again. I wouldn't be with someone like Nicole -- who doesn't care who she hurts to get what she wants. - Prioritizing Me:
Always putting me first in the relationship, not relatives or anyone else who hasn’t put them first. Zac used to think he had to put a relative first who raised him. I had to remind him his own relative never put him first and he finally realized he was never chosen first so he will put me first from now on. He was trying to keep the peace by accepting everything that happened in his family, but it wasn't worth it in the end to make me mad over it. He and I would NEVER break up our family after 30 years of solid foundation.
The saying goes, "Happy wife, happy life!" - Understanding Boundaries:
Someone who understands the importance of choosing their partner over relatives who didn’t choose them, as Zac Efron has done. . .I knew he was under a lot of pressure to accept the bullshit, so he needed my help to break free from the pressure. - Genuine Choice:
Someone who chooses me because they truly want to be with me, not because they couldn't get anything else or see me as a last resort. I'm no one's last resort. - Following Through with Plans:
Someone who follows through with commitments, like Zac Efron saying he will visit me in December and doing so without hesitation. When Zac says he will do something he will do something so there's no point for people who don't believe I'm talking to him to say he's not coming in December because they don't believe a famous celebrity like him would be with someone like me. - Punctuality:
A partner who is on time to events and keeps to the plans we make together. - Basic Hygiene:
Someone who maintains basic hygiene, including regular grooming and showering, without needing to be told. Cleanliness is a must. -- literally can't believe I've seen some relationship posts say their partner stinks and they don't know how to tell them, lmao. It's a hell no from me about that. - Clear Communication:
Someone who understands and respects my values and doesn't need things repeated multiple times when they've already heard me the first time. I often get told how some people don't like to repeat the same instructions when it comes to work related things. . .well I don't like to have the same conversation over and over when it comes to life partner things. I didn't change my mind the first time I discussed politics/religion with people and having the same conversation 20 times does nothing.
The Reveal
- Zac Efron will reveal me in a year or two. No need for verification now.
- The truth will come out in its own time; I don't need PROOF just because some demand it now.
- Emphasizing patience and confidence in our relationship.
- Challenging those who demand immediate public confirmation.
- Reinforcing that the relationship doesn't need public validation to be real.
Starla - Zac and Dylan Efron's REAL Mother
Starla showed way more grace than me toward her ex-husband who abandoned her after 30+ years of marriage. She was really nice about her ex-husband trying to erase her from the Efron family and replacing her with a gold digger with no morals who is even younger than Zac Efron -- their eldest child.
What Starla Showed the Mistress at the Star Ceremony:
**I wonder what was going on inside the mind of the mistress when she saw David take a pretend family photo with his original family as if the mistress and the toddlers didn't exist. Was she still happy about what she did to Zac Efron and me? She wasn't welcomed on the Red Carpets. Zac and I can pretend to be nice to her for the cameras but the mistress knows what she has done to Zac's Hollywood events and family.
💔 What the Mistress Did to Starla’s Family:
Starla showed way more grace than me toward her ex-husband who abandoned her after 30+ years of marriage. She was really nice about her ex-husband trying to erase her from the Efron family and replacing her with a gold digger with no morals who is even younger than Zac Efron -- their eldest child.
What Starla Showed the Mistress at the Star Ceremony:
- Grace Under Fire
Starla stood tall, calm, and dignified — radiating strength without saying a word. She didn’t stoop to drama the way I did hurling every curse word at her ex-husband. That grace alone made the mistress look petty and irrelevant by comparison. - Starla’s Still the Matriarch
That photo with just Zac, Dylan, and David (no mistress, no new toddler kids from the second surprise wife 33+ years later) was a reminder: This was the original family. This is who built Zac Efron. Starla never lost her place — she just let the world remember it by that one photo alone and she didn't need to get into a petty fight with the mistress. - Legacy Over Lies
Starla stood beside her sons, the ones she raised, in a moment that celebrated her efforts and sacrifices. She didn’t need a spotlight to prove her worth — the truth spoke for itself. - The Power of Class
Without confrontation or a single bitter word, she reminded everyone who the real woman in the story was. - Unshakeable Bonds
That photo said: “You tried to replace me, but these bonds are deeper than anything you’ll ever understand.”
**I wonder what was going on inside the mind of the mistress when she saw David take a pretend family photo with his original family as if the mistress and the toddlers didn't exist. Was she still happy about what she did to Zac Efron and me? She wasn't welcomed on the Red Carpets. Zac and I can pretend to be nice to her for the cameras but the mistress knows what she has done to Zac's Hollywood events and family.
💔 What the Mistress Did to Starla’s Family:
- Broke a Marriage
She knowingly entered a relationship with a married man — destroying a long-standing union and the trust that held it together. - Shattered the Family Unit
The involvement of the mistress led to the breakdown of a family that had history, love, and children — leaving behind wounds that would take years (or lifetimes) to heal. - Took the Efron Name
She took a name she didn’t earn — one that was built through decades of hard work, parenting, and sacrifice by Starla — and wore it like a trophy. - Disrespected the Mother of Zac Efron
Showing up to high-profile events like the star ceremony as if she were part of the story, when in truth, she disrupted it. - Tried to Rewrite the Narrative
Letting people assume all four kids were hers, trying to erase Starla’s existence and diminish her place in Zac’s rise. That’s not just dishonest — it’s cruel. - Caused Lasting Tension
The mistress has caused fractures in relationships, awkwardness at major milestones, and an emotional toll that lingers for everyone involved — especially Zac Efron at his Star Ceremony events.
Zac Efron and Jessie Diaries
- Frustration with friends: It's annoying when people automatically dismiss my personal experiences, especially when I have been keeping them to myself for years.
- Past silence: I chose not to tell people in high school or college about my relationship with Zac Efron, knowing how they'd react. And they're just proving me right with the way they dismiss it.
- Doubt and skepticism: Friends are determined to say it's not Zac Efron, which is frustrating since I don’t owe them proof of anything.
- Option of surprising everyone: I have considered just bringing Zac Efron into my life one day with no warnings, avoiding the need for anyone’s validation or approval.
- No need to "fangirl": I'm not the type to drool over celebrities; if I say I am with a celebrity, it’s because it's real.
- Annoyance at dismissal: It's irritating when people doubt my relationship with Zac Efron, even though I have been truthful about it.
- Looking forward to December: When Zac visits in December, those who doubted me will likely feel foolish, and I will no longer need to explain myself.
My Long Distance Relationship with Zac Efron
- I am in a long-distance relationship with Zac Efron.
- We have been waiting 3+ years to hang out in person.
- I prefer to wait for a time when Zac can visit for at least a month, rather than visiting him every month for one day.
- We don't send each other long-distance gifts for holidays or birthdays, waiting for an extended visit instead.
- Zac's work schedule, including long filming projects that can take 6 months to a year, can't spend time together due to work schedules.
My friends don't understand waiting 4 years for in-person time and the long-distance nature of the relationship. - I don't have vacation days and cannot visit Zac as our friends suggest.
- We both prefer waiting for him to be able to stay a month rather than just hanging out for one weekend at a time.
- Plus, my friends don't get that once I can finally be with Zac Efron in person, I'll be hanging out with him mostly after patiently waiting for 3+ years. While we're in a long distance, I can hang out with my friends more.
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